Dressing the Part

One year ago, I came out as a man and began socially transitioning without changing my body or appearance. My life essentially became one big thought experiment: how many times would I get misgendered in a day? Should I hold those closest to me to higher standards regarding my name and pronouns? What if I missed going by my so-called deadname? How would my cis male partner feel about being in a gay relationship?

I have answers now. They may surprise you.


A Trans Guy Who Loves Dresses … Wait, What?

Man with dark hair wearing a red dress sitting in front of a sign that reads "fake" in red letters

Trans People Can Be Transphobic, Too

Man standing on Miami Beach in a white skirt and navy tank with colorful umbrellas behind him

Miss, Ma’am, Lady: What I do When I’m Misgendered

Man in blue dress leaning against a red wall with the words "Fire House No Parking" on it

Stop Inviting Me to Your Women’s Spaces

Man with dark hair in a white dress, running towards the Golden Gate Bridge in San Francisco

The Reverse Boob Job

Man in a white Free People dress standing in front of a red door in Philadelphia, Pennsylvania

Should I Hold My Family to a Higher Standard During My Transition?

Dark-haired man in white dress standing in front of Cinderella's Castle at Disneyland

The Rules of Breakable Heaven

Dark-haired man in a white dress standing against fnnch's lips mural in San Francisco

I’m A Queer Trans Person of Color, But I’m Not A Victim of Oppression

Two dark-haired men stand in a confrontation on the beach

Dysphoria Doesn’t Care About My Rationality

Man in a red maxi dress looking over the Sarasota skyline at sunset

Feminine Trans Men and Masculine Cis Women

Dark-haired man in a sun hat looking out at the blue water on Anna Maria Island

A Trans Guy’s Contention With ‘Women’s Issues’